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Whoa~ Thank you for all the replies.
Here goes what I think about your comments.
In reply to CheeYen,
Firstly, thank you for willing to spend time replying to my post.
As for "blogging different from others",
my guess is that I write about my random thoughts rather than the usual daily life blog?
Oh well, if that’s the case, I guess this is just me, who likes mental acrobatics a lot.
Sometimes, even while watching some random movie, my brain will start working and link up ideas (tan_ce can testify that).
I would really appreciate if you would see my reply to your comments a plain "offering my view", there’s no string attached.
Please do not be offended if it seems to you that I’m run overboard,
I would appreciate that you could tell straight to me rather than taking it as it is.
(This applies to everyone else, I do not wish to make enemies nor am I trying to persuade you with my views. I guess I’m running a sandbox trying to gather opinions . But at the same time, occasionally my link between my sandbox and my reality side just cross over. If you notice that it is the case, please point it out to me, I’ll truly appreciate.)
Now to the comments, quoting from CheeYen’s comment,
"social norm is just something inherent from the history, so, not
all but most of the time, people are expectable to do something."
Yup, I agree that Social Norm is a tradition, "something inherent" from history, no issue with it.
But I always believe that for every action, there ought to be an original intention,
why was it started in the first place,
why is it doing "A" instead of doing "B",
why is it necessary to wear clothes when you’re walking on the street?
Why can’t we just be naked?
As an illustration, the answer is simple,
it is unpleasant to be naked on the street.
Using what HuanJin have said,
the act of running naked on the street might just as well be an inconsiderate act.
Besides, there’s almost no other good implication or meaning towards the action of running naked on the street.
If there’s no good reason,
one should really reconsider and rethink the intention of trying to run naked on the street.
Next the example of loving our parents and siblings.
If loving our parents and siblings is just another social norm, and there’s no legal obligations to do it, then this could easily be used as a justification to not love our parents and siblings.
This, will really cause a big problem in our society.
To me, I myself once struggle with this issue, as I was once reluctant to subdue to social norm just like that. I just couldn’t accept it and just do it plainly because it’s a social norm, everybody does it, therefore I do it. I want reason, purpose, meaning of a mere action. Back then, I was on one side of the extreme. It was bad, it made me tend to ignore everything that comes my way if I don’t see a reason of doing it.
But it’s not until January 2006 where I was asked to compose a song about LOVE, that I found the answer to everything, every single action, every single little act, it comes from the fact that you care, you love because first you are loved.
A return of blessings.
This is what I believe and it has held me on till today, giving meaning to every action that I do.
"We love because he first loved us." (1 John 4:19)
Interested people can read the whole section about "God’s Love and ours" @ here
With this truth, I find meaning in everything little that I do.
Back to the driver and passenger example.
I brought out this example plainly because I feel that it’s one of the most significant example of the social norm issue I’ve ever encountered.
Ah ha~ This is the first time I sprained my ankle so badly!!
I think it’s not the ankle directly, it’s more like the muscle above the ankle.
Literally can’t walk.
But yet, now I’m at the function hall videographing Dance Production Piecing.
I guess it’s responsibility, there should be no excuse.
As long as I can still walk, I will continue my work.
Too bad UHWC (University Health and Wellness Centre) is closed today.
Should I consult a doctor?
Actually I’m dying to try 铁打.
But not sure where is the nearest.
Wanting to try 铁打because it’ll be very interesting to talk to the 师傅.
Clearing doubts…. hohoho~
Anyway, yesterday I had another session with tan_ce.
I know I’ve said this for many many times, but
I’m truly grateful that I’ve finally found someone who has the ability to bounce ideas,
who gives me satisfactory answers.
After some lengthy discussions,
I’ve found out that the tendency of trying to find the perfect answer and always seeking "the answer" that I feel that it’s right, sound convincing, satisfying
is ACTUALLY a result of my upbringing, ce agrees.
My father has always give me more than satisfactory answers,
that’s why when I’m out of home,
I try to seek like minded people,
people who has their own opinion or people who is willing to SANDBOX my ideas, value system and provide me opinions, knowledge, views that stimulates my mind.
People like this is scarce, even if there are, it’s even harder to find one who has a similar belief system like tan_ce where I can freely express my christian worldview without heldback.
Thank you Lord.
Your will is clearer each day!
You have been great to me.
Thank you.
I’m grateful that I have a great friend.
He was the one who introduce the term "Mental Acrobatics" to me.
I am glad that I have someone to bounce my ideas.
I am truly glad that he’s willing to use his brain power to answer my "mental acrobatics" questions.
Once, unknowingly, I’ve gone beyond his quota limit, and almost drain him dry.
I’m glad that he’s regain his energy since then.
But I must always remind myself that I must not burn him out with my acrobatics questions.
I just realize that I truly never get bored or tired with mental acrobatics.
I can go on and on and on non-stop thinking hard, trying to get the perfect answer.
While I was typing about my best friend,
suddenly I got inspiration to write about my working etiquette.
Let’s digress for a while…
Things within my skills limit,
I will make sure that I give my best effort.
I just feel like it’s wrong to produce half-hearted products
even if the receiving party might not even know.
oh yes, The end products of the two approach might even be the same.
But does the end justify the means?
It could have been a better product if more effort and time is spent.
What do you think?
Another "issue" that is burning within is "does gaming really helps a person to de-stress?"
I’ve learned that computer gaming is a form of escape from reality,
as the gamer often put on another role in computer games.
It allows the gamer to do things which he normally cannot do or unable to do.
Will the content of games affect the mind of a gamer?
What can you learn from games that is build on killing and violence only?
(I remember I’ve dealt with the issue of stress some time ago, will try to review it the next time I wake up.)
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Therefore, applying the LOVE principle,
the simple act of moving to the front when the front seat is empty suddenly make so much sense.
What HuanJin said is true too,
Would you mind the extra mile?
Afterall, you don’t lose anything by getting down the back seat and going to the front.
The act itself might well be an added bonus to your relationship with your friend, the driver.
But as I’ve mentioned in my comments,
if the driver are to get angry just because someone didn’t thought of this before, or are not aware. Or it might even be first time experiencing tagging along in friend’s car after many years of parents as driver.
Instead, on the driver’s side, since he is providing the service,
should feel happy, to be able to provide a service for his friends.
Therefore, it doesn’t matter if there’s no one from the back seat fill the front seat.
Now if the driver really feel that he needs accompaniment, he should tell it to his friends politely rather than getting angry (or mere toleration, hiding the discomfort) and just judge that his friends are inconsiderate, worst still is that he start thinking that his friends just don’t care about him, not wanting to follow the social norm that he himself has accepted.
It’s about a paradigm shift here.
The ultimate intention of doing things, with meaning.
Purpose Driven Life.